The Mariana Story

How important is fashion to me? Very, very important. Because it makes ME smile.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not a shallow gal and, some days, I wear my workout clothes all day; on those days, I give myself the gift of a good “sweat sesh,” and I treasure every minute of my workout. As a consequence, I don’t make it to the shower until night. That “post-workout look” is not my favorite look and, while I sometimes feel like I fell short, I know it’s okay.

To me, looking good is a gift to myself, I don’t do it for others, I do it for the woman I see in the mirror because I deserve to smile when I catch my own reflection.

Since a very early age I realized I only had energy for one thing or the other: to feel bad or to look bad. I definitely can’t do both. It drains way too much energy.

If I feel terrible, the worst thing that can happen to me is to look at the mirror and see a tired face. When I feel the worst is when I make the biggest effort to look good. So even in my early days of motherhood, I managed to wear a pretty day dress and rocked a blowout. That was the way of telling myself “I am more than a tired mom; I deserve to look pretty”.

I have red hair, so I have always taken advantage of it and an amazing haircut and blowout was my signature. My little sister, Gabby, who is a fashionista has a passion for dresses hence I like dresses too. Pretty dress + blowout= happiness. Tired and all, but my glass was full.

When I was 12 weeks pregnant with my 4th child, I noticed I had a bald spot. Later the dermatologist confirmed I had Alopecia.

Diagnosis: Alopecia Areata. Autoimmune disease. My own body was killing my hair follicles.
Cause: Unknown.
Severity of my case: Unknown, only time would say.
Cure: None.

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As you can imagine, being 31 years old, 4 months pregnant and going bald was not part of the plan. What was I going to do to look pretty and feel confident? Was my hair ever going to grow back? Am I going to lose my eyebrows too? So many questions. I remember I was grateful I wasn’t losing my hair due to chemo, that was clear, it could have been worse. I was grateful, but I was worried too.

Thank God I have Gabby in my life, having a sister has always been a blessing, but having a talented empathic sister came very handy in that particular moment of my life. Gabby engineered a hair piece that I ended up wearing for several months, it was light and comfortable, it didn’t feel like a sauna under the Texan sun. Regular wigs were not for me, too itchy and too hot.

The situation was getting worse and worse, I was getting balder and bigger every day. Far from my ideal of beauty and strength. I was deeply sad, I was crumbling.

At some point I realized I couldn’t stay where I was emotionally, I had to change my attitude and my mindset. I know it might sound very shallow, but fashion starts playing a big role in my life at this point. I had no hair but that wasn’t going to stop me. I had to get strength out of nowhere, and the right outfit could do the trick to make me feel powerful and confident again.

It took 27 weeks to go 95% bald. That’s how severe it was. It went from Alopecia Areata to Alopecia Totalis very fast.

2 weeks or so before the baby was born, my husband shaved my head, there was no point in keeping the 5% hair I had left. That felt good, empowering. Deciding not to care about my hair anymore was freeing. My husband made me laugh that day. Thank God for good husbands too!

I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl we called Isabel; she is truly perfect.

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Mariana with Isabel.

As weeks went by, I started growing some super fine hair, not much, very blonde, almost white. After many months it turned red again. At this point I didn’t have a big pregnant belly; I felt the empowering force of fashion could get me out of that dark place of deep sadness. I might be bald but that didn’t mean I couldn’t rock a beautiful summer dress and a scarf tied to my head. Then is when the healing journey began. I focused a little more on myself and gave myself permission to think a little more on what I needed to feel confident. We all know if mom is not ok, nobody around will be ok. You cannot give what you don’t have. I couldn’t give love and sweet words if I couldn’t give that to myself. A beautiful dress made me feel like a million bucks. A beautiful scarf made me feel sophisticated, even if I had to deal with 4 kids ages 5 and under.

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“A statement piece gives you strength, gives you power, gives you a smile when you look at yourself in the mirror, and to me, that is priceless.”

–Mariana with Family


Mariana and Daughters.

Mariana and Daughters.

Mariana Lujambio
Digital Marketing Director
La Jolie MLN

www.lajolie-mln.com
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